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What Are Your Addictions?

*** ADDICTION ***

To Start Changing the world, or even just YOUR world, then you have to start by changing yourself.

To change yourself you first have to be aware of any denial you have around addictions.

Addictions are actions with consequences that can lead to a sub life or worse.

You think you are in control but you are not. You think about moderation but it’s not. You think you can quit any time, but you cannot. – This is addiction

If you think you are free of addiction, try to escape and see what comes up. See how your body and brain react. Than you will find out.

Addiction is not morals and ethics.

Addiction is about cause and effect.

If Cause is excessive

Effect is often addiction

It comes down to choice…

You choose to stay locked in your cell of addiction or kill the addiction and escape.

You think you can flirt with your addictions, but you can’t. Either they are dead or they are still a threat.

Whilst YOU allow them to live, whilst YOU continue to flirt with your destiny you will always be in danger.

Addictions are funny things, they wait patiently for a way in, then they burrow deep and eventually take over.

You may not even see them coming. You may not even realise, but once they are in, they will use almost anything to stay.

Most addictions come from having low self esteem, that feeling of not being enough.

But YOU ARE enough!

What are you in denial about?

Junk Food?

Drugs (including Hard drugs, alcohol, caffeine, smoking)?

Gambling?

Pornography?

People Pleasing?

What do YOU think you are in control of, when you are not?

When your intention is clear, you will destroy your addictions, when you are not, they will always come back, justifying why its ok is just an excuse.

When you are ready to to remove an addiction, you KNOW how to do it.

You are either in or out. Courting addiction is NOT an option, if your goal is freedom, then cut addictions loose.

Many people will not move forwards out of fear, addictions closest friend. They live side by side to keep you locked away, justifying your existence.

But who wants to exist, when you can truly live?

You either choose to exist or to live. Survive or to Thrive.

To live your life on your terms, you choose to first find peace with yourself.

Recognise that you are enough.

You are powerful beyond measure.

You are worthy.

So make your intentions clear. Take your power back and remove your addictions, or be forever stuck.

Truth, Courage & Happiness

Dean x

#theleanwarrior

#bedohaveitall

brainset, mindset, Motivation, self mastery

A Warrior Cry To Your Soul

To make a commitment to change and to alter ones path takes courage.

It takes a realisation that what ever you are doing is not serving you and so you draw a line, make a stand, a declaration to be brutally honest with yourself and challenge the very fabric of your being to see if it is you or other influences controlling your destiny.

If you feel powerless, then take steps to alter your internal environment and change direction and take back your power.

Do you hold sovereignty over yourself, are you in control of you?
or do you allow yourself to be controlled?

What influences are you allowing to preside over you? What reasons are you using to prevent action?

YOU get to choose the thoughts you have and actions you take.
Do not wait, do not hesitate!

The first rule of mastering yourself is to master your palate, what you consume…the food that you eat.

Once you master that you can apply that template to master anything.

Do you control what you ingest? Or do you continue to make excuses as to why you do not, can not, will not!

Consumption is not the problem.

Denial is the problem.

Being a warrior is about brutal self honesty.

It is about knowing yourself inside and out so that you cannot get away with kidding yourself.

What are you kidding yourself about?

What reasons are you using why you cannot be who you want to be?

Post below or send me a message if you are struggling and need some help with that.

Truth, courage & happiness

Dean

‪#‎leanwarrior‬

discipline, Inspiration, Mental Strength, mindset, Motivation

Extreme Ownership

A BIG reason why you may not be achieving your fitness, business (or any other) goals is your lack of awareness.

Awareness precedes change.

One of my favourite sayings, you may have heard me mention it once or twice 😉

Why?

Because without awareness, no “plan” will help since you’re not even aware of the real problem. The underlying cycle will continue to repeat itself.

As we change habits we move from…

Unconscious incompetence –> Conscious incompetence –> Conscious competence –> Unconscious incompetence

From completely unaware, to aware but no knowledge of how to change, to consciously learning and making the changes, to finally applying the change automatically without thinking about it.

To move from that first step we have to become aware of it first!

Although accountability is a big factor in success, you can only be held accountable if you’re truly committed.

And to be truly committed you have to first take ownership of your current reality.

The beauty of that is that we get to destroy our current reality that does not serve us and create a new one that does.

Sometimes we realise we have the power to change, but it feels uncomfortable and so we don’t stick with it only to let it go.

Heres why…

By deciding to change you are taking the responsibility for that action and it can be very uncomfortable. Many stories can rise out of your mind why you “couldn’t possible do it”. But ask yourself, is that really true? or is it the voice of fear?

It can be very easy to then not do the actions required to improve your life and then blame them on something else instead so you don’t have to have that responsibility.

But without responsibility, you have no power over yourself. You relinquish control of your life to someone or something else.

Is that what you want?

Sometimes when you don’t do anything you cannot fail at it, you cannot be judged, you will not hear “I told you so”.

But if you really want to improve your life you must own it.

By taking extreme ownership, you get to accept the process and take responsibility and know it is all on you whether you succeed or not.

But this is a good thing, because even if you fail, you are still in control, still able to learn the lesson why, make adjustments and try again.

So what is your priority?

Do you want to take back control of your life, or do you want your life to control you?

e.g. from a nutrition perspective, there may be a number of things to change, but don’t try and change them all at once. decide on a step and implement it. it might be…

3 litres of water per day

Add more protein to your daily diet

Add more fats to each meal

Get more sleep

Eat and chew slower

If you struggle, ask what’s the lesson?

Do I take on less? do I make sure I do one thing consistently THEN move to the next thing when you are ready for it?

What things are you trying, but not succeeding at and blaming someone or something other than yourself?

Remember, every one has the time, its the priority you place on what you are doing that determines what you do.

So prioritise and plan what you want to change and execute the plan, consistently, day by day, week by week. until you succeed.

It doesn’t have to look a certain way, be flexible with it, but get it done.

If you have any thoughts or comments, then let me know below

Truth, Courage & Happiness

Dean x

Mental Strength, mindset

Who’s Behind The Mask?

***Who is the person behind the mask?***

Through my own experiences, I have found many people have created the unconscious habit of putting on different “masks” for different circumstances.

I know I have done it, maybe you have too?

If thats the case then who is under the mask?

Who is the real you?

Do you actually know?

We put on “masks” when we are with our partner, our kids, family, friends, work colleagues, but to what end?

why do you feel the need to hide your own true self?

your own unique beautiful identity?

Wearing masks is born out of fear.

fear of being rejected.

fear of not fitting in.

Thinking from a place of fear will always bring you misery, you will be in a place of darkness, not allowing your true self to shine.

But I ask you, if you feel you would be judged by these people then isn’t it possible that you do not need anyone who did not appreciate the person under the mask?

Why not free yourself of people who do not appreciate you for who you really are beneath the mask?

The whole world is full of relationships and opportunities, just waiting to unveil yourself to the world, the real you.

So when are you shedding the Masks and stories, to reveal your one true self?

Truth, Courage & Happiness

Dean x

Balance, Inspiration, mindset, Motivation

An Abundant Life

A lot of people struggle with this and their thoughts come from a place of lack, scarcity and fear. I know I have been there many times.

It is so easy to remain stuck and focus on what you have. If that is not what you want then that feeling of dread and fear can consume you.

In the Upanishads, from the Hindu scriptures, it is said:

“From abundance he took abundance, and abundance still remains”

How beautiful is that, you can have all you want and still there is enough for everyone else.

There is enough for everyone, there really is, but it is so often forgotten as we get bogged down in what we don’t have and that is what we end up with.

So today, simply accept that you can have what you want, you just have to reach out for it…

Your life is so abundant
If you make it so
If you focus on what you want
Instead of what you don’t… no.

Abundance is everywhere
If you dare believe its true
From your happiness and the air you breathe
to the desires you want, yes you!

Take abundance from abundance
And abundance still remains
So you CAN have an abundant happy life
or a life that stays the same

Our Universe consists of all our thoughts
What we say and do
So which abundance to you seek
its really up to you

For I choose an abundance of happiness
What are you thinking of?
For when you choose your thought
Does it really serve?

So when I ask you of abundance
What do you truly see
A life of Joy and happiness
Or one of Misery?

So which abundance do you choose
That thought you have every day
The thought that can create all you want
or take it all away

So which life do you choose to have?
Which steps are you willing you take?
the path to a life of abundance?
Or one full of misery and hate?

Take abundance from abundance
And abundance still remains
I choose a rich, awesome life
not one without a flame

You are allowed to have everything you want, so reach out and take it x

Be True
Be Courageous
Be Happy

Dean x

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